Arranged Marriages vs Love Marriages which do you prefer ? When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner Desi way some time i feel its like a suicide mission in wild because there's only 50% chances that you get your dream partner of your taste and chances are very much bleak...
Though many religious fanatics boast that Indian system of arranged marriages is highly successful and has less divorce rate i think its not the arranged marriage but fear about society and culture which are keeping them bonded together but as the people are getting more educated and women being self dependent the rate of divorce are being slowly rising in Indian society too....
Choosing life partner in an arrangement called "Arranged Marriages" is one of the crucial decision that most of the Indian youngsters face in their life than any other person in the world he has to cross the hurdles from horoscope matching, caste, education, social status, family reputation etc etc just to choose a life partner do you think you get spouse of your choice after so many filtration's? naa as i said chances are bleak.....
Though arranged marriages are not like before where girl and boy see each other and the next meet is on the day of marriage, today's arranged marriages has a buffer period of understanding each other and time to make decision whether he or she is the right person to tie the knot but i think that time is too less to understand any person.
Though i am not against arranged marriages nor i do only believe only in love marriages i strongly believe there exist other right elements which are necessary for successful marriages but bottom line remains the same "it is tough to find a right and compatible partner Desi way" do you agree with me?
Though many religious fanatics boast that Indian system of arranged marriages is highly successful and has less divorce rate i think its not the arranged marriage but fear about society and culture which are keeping them bonded together but as the people are getting more educated and women being self dependent the rate of divorce are being slowly rising in Indian society too....Choosing life partner in an arrangement called "Arranged Marriages" is one of the crucial decision that most of the Indian youngsters face in their life than any other person in the world he has to cross the hurdles from horoscope matching, caste, education, social status, family reputation etc etc just to choose a life partner do you think you get spouse of your choice after so many filtration's? naa as i said chances are bleak.....
Though arranged marriages are not like before where girl and boy see each other and the next meet is on the day of marriage, today's arranged marriages has a buffer period of understanding each other and time to make decision whether he or she is the right person to tie the knot but i think that time is too less to understand any person.
Though i am not against arranged marriages nor i do only believe only in love marriages i strongly believe there exist other right elements which are necessary for successful marriages but bottom line remains the same "it is tough to find a right and compatible partner Desi way" do you agree with me?
5 comments:
Arranged marriages should be abolished until it is forced one.
what is arranged marriages? do you tie a knot if you do not like her?!! if yes its a arranged marriage if not then its partially arranged marriage!!....
here in US my daughter was married to my best friends son but they dated for 1 year before marrying i don't think so arranged marriages does any harm unless and until it is ethical.
TRUE!!! I feel that at times, its the INBUILT fear in Indian society which makes the couple ( I personally feel woman) make compromises more than the LIMIT....I have seen this and experienced this..
I chose to choose my life partner, so am responsible with the everything that comes with this marriage...
I did cast my vote :)
People in India prefer to play it safe rather than take risks, which makes them go for arranged marriages rather than risking the dating scene. Besides, for a lot of Indians there is no other option, since dating and intermixing of genders is severely restricted.
If there is a societal or legal difficulty in getting a divorce, 'love marriages' will be as 'successful' as arranged marriages are. Case in point would be Italy where the divorce rates are comparable to India.
I am so glad hearing that there are others who feel the same was as i do. I dont know how much longer i can resist the noose. As you said, i completely agree that india must have begun to witness divorces in the middle class section, perhaps a max two generations ago.. and there were quite a few cases of ppl who held up a 20 yr old marriage for the sake of their kids. the moment they got married, the parents part ways. apart from that, it is not necessarily true that arranged way is any way better than love marriages, but the society, by and large, keeps their eyes wide open to notice any small prob in a love marriages... so they just cant escape the lime light. the society wouldnt be intersted in an arranged marriage suffering similar problems
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